Anxiety, The Beast Within or The Angle of Peace?

Yes, it’s mean as hell. This “thing” that takes over my mind and my body. What is it?


That is only part of the question we need to ask about the monster of anxiety. The other part should be, “How do I get rid of it.”

Fear is the beginning of all anxiety. Just as money is a root of all evil, so is our own fear and it is mean as hell.

Anxiety is an intense emotion of fear. This fear is generally of future events or activities. This fear then can cause us to have negative self damaging thoughts, images of destruction, failure, or catastrophe, and intense adverse physical response in the present.

We all experience fear and anxiety to a lessor or greater amount in our daily lives. In fact, fear and anxiety can act as either a positive or a negative emotion. They can act as a warning system that helps us decide what to do in a particular situation. Or, fear and anxiety can act as a catalyst to our own living hell.

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.; DSM–5; American Psychiatric Association, 2013)  gives the following picture, “ with fear more often associated with surges of autonomic arousal necessary for fight or flight, thoughts of immediate danger, and escape behaviors, and anxiety more often associated with muscle tension and vigilance in preparation for future danger and cautions or avoidance behaviors.”


Let’s see an example of this:

If you were walking home after a night out with your loved one, and you had a choice to go down a dark alleyway or walk along a lighted sidewalk. You might experience fear and anxiety accompanied with some negative thinking and body sensations about walking down the dark alleyway. This type of fear and anxiety is good. It warns us and helps us to survive.

But this does not work for our inner world experiences.

If we were to apply this same logic to our inner world as we do to our outer world, the outcome would be debilitating.  If you were a college student at a prestigious university preparing to take a challenging exam. You most likely would experience strong emotions of fear, negative thinking of failure, and the urge to do something else besides studying for the test. This is anxiety at work. It floods our senses with the fight or flight sensations and inundates our mind with negativity and disaster.

The problem with anxiety is that we form negative habitual responses to the inner pain that we experience. Like the above situation, we have a future event that we will face, we have negative thoughts, negative emotions, and urges that arise, then we try to reduce them with negative behavior.  Overtime, if we allow fear and anxiety to lead our life and look for ways to “get rid” of it, negative behaviors can become habitual and physiological disorders establish.

Do I have It?

Yes, we all will experiences anxiety in your life. The question is how does anxiety affect our daily lives? Does it take over and debilitate us?

How do I treat it:

The good news is that anxiety is shared by everyone. This means there are many resources that can help us learn and understand it.

Self help:

There are many types of therapy self help books for Anxiety. Below are some good resources that are available either from Amazon or the local book store.

  • The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety, by John P. Forsyth, PhD and George H. Eifert, PhD
  • The Anxiety Toolkit, by Alice Boyes, PhD
  • The Anxiety & Worry Workbook: The Cognitive Behavioral Solution, by David A. Clark PhD and Aaron T. Beck, MD
  • When Panic Attacks: The New, Drug-Free Anxiety Therapy That Can Change your Life, by David D. Burns, M.D

When should I seek out a counselor or Professional advice?

If you feel that anxiety is getting out of control in you life, that is when you should reach out and seek professional help. Seeking out a professional is like hiring a coach to help you throw the ball better, swim faster or like a math or language tutor, who helps advance your academic skills.


In looking up the word “cope”, the first definition is interesting. From, it reads, “to struggle or deal, especially on fairly even terms or with some degree of success.”   This definition is helpful, for it gives hope that the individual who is experiencing extreme anxiety has the capacity to have “some degree of success” to a better way of living.  Learning to live out different degrees of success with anxiety in our life is not easy. Using self-help books and going to counseling can assist a person to understand their unique life situation and gain the knowledge to have success in their life.

Do I need to take medications:

This question should be answered by your primary care provider. Medication can help reduce the feelings, emotions, urges, and sensations of anxiety but will not cure them.




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